When I was a child I said I was never going to get married or have kids. That changed about 7 years ago when my boyfriend proposed to me and I said yes. And then a year after we were married I was blessed with a beautiful baby boy. That day changed my out look on life for ever. Fast forward to this February, when I filed for divorce, because I rather have a broken family and be happy then to be miserable and unhappy living together. Since the divorce has been finalized, I struggle to figure out who I am and what my purpose on earth is. For years, I thought I was meant to be a mother and a wife- and I wanted to have a large family like my grandmother did. But, now it is just looking to be me and my son.
Everyday a new set of goals seem to be created. One day, I’m striving just to make a meal that’s edible…And when I think I get that down pat, my son decides that he doesn’t like food anymore. Then I set a goal of being home more often – and working less. It worked out great, then work changes and My hours have to cut into family time. Now that Lil C is in First grade, my goal is to be able to help him do his best in school. If he has homework, I want to be able to do it with him. If he has any projects, I want to know about it. I don’t want it to be like last year, where my ex husband and my mom were the only ones making sure his work was completed on time.
I still have a dream o f having a large family. But I am not going to rush into anything just to attempt to make it happen. I have been seeing a guy – and there is a lot of possibilities between him and I. Both of us have the same passions in life – our kids. Both of us have a strong work ethic – and we both come from very family orientated families.
After being married for so long, I forgot what it was like to be on the dating scene. I was so use to doing for myself. If I need something, Id get it. If I wanted to do something, then Id do it. I felt that I have grown to become a strong woman. I may not be perfect nor am I rich… But I have all the riches in life – which is love. Every day we all have to overcome obstacles. For example, I have been scheduled each day this week an hour before latchkey starts for my son. Luckily, after talking to my boss, he’s let me slide a little and I have been starting right after I drop lil C off. But the biggest obstacle in life for me, would have to be my own self. I want so much out of life, I tend to miss all the small luxuries that I do have. And it takes so long to see the big picture.
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Rita Spratlen says
It sounds like you are doing good! Life throws us things and we have to adjust. I know you will do well for you are stating all the things that are important. I could go on and on but I won’t!
Kids can be picky eaters and I had one. I finally told him if he didn’t like the dinner he could have chili or cereal or a sandwich. I always made a big salad and he always ate that! I wish I would have not made as many special things for him for it is good to know that life isn’t everything you want when you want it!! He is grown now and doing fine but picky!!!
thismamaslife says
Oh my goodness, can kids be picky eaters. If he’d have his way it’d be pizza and chicken nuggets EVERY Day of the week
Emily Woodhouse says
After a long day, I come home and spend time with each of my kids, going over their day, planning dinner, doing art projects or baking. I need time to decompress and they need my attention.